EFT and LOVE

2008-01-03T13:25:00.001-08:00

In my short experience with love in life I have found that I speak and desire love verbally and physically. I also give out in my relationships what I want to get. Here’s the problem…when my partner doesn’t feel loved by the language of love I am giving and does not know how to speak the language I desire.

If I am giving out and desiring physical touch to someone whose main love language is acts of service, I will create a huge energy shortage when it comes to our heart connection. Until I learn how to speak my partner’s main love language instead of giving out what I want to get, I will continue to experience tension and disconnect in my relationship.

So where does EFT come in? EFT gives me the opportunity to collapse any negative charges I might have around my own experiences with love. By doing this I free up my body’s energy system, enabling it to be open to new expressions of love. EFT unleashes creative ways to give and receive love, taking my partner’s love language into consideration. Because I reduce the negativity from my own energy system I bring out my natural propensity to see the beauty in others. EFT collapses any judgments and conditional criteria I have gained and used throughout my lifetime that supports my interpretation of love.

Key Point: IT’S MY INTERPRETATION OF LOVE. Even though my partner does not give and receive love the way I do, I deeply and completely love and accept myself anyway. I choose to be open to experiencing new expressions of love. I choose to come up with creative ways to communicate my needs with love.

By collapsing the negative charges around distressing memories, that prevent me from loving and accepting myself, I open my heart up to the experience of unconditional love. Love evokes love, acceptance evokes acceptance. Yes, I give what I want and what I have within to give. Because EFT unleashes abundant self-love and acceptance while collapsing the judgments I have gathered about love and acceptance, I enter into a whole new dimension: Emotional Freedom in love for the sake of love alone.

Lauren Miller Koslosky EFT-CC; EFT-ADV
Website: 2loveandbeloved.blogspot.com
303-521-6134
Free EFT Workshop: Topic: Choices Method and EFT: Feb. 13, 7-9 pm

2007-10-24T20:56:00.000-07:00

Self-Esteem: Belief in Oneself

Did you know that no two heartbeats are the same? It’s true. Heartbeats are as unique as fingerprints. In fact our heartbeat can be viewed as our energy signature. Energy flows uniquely through each human being. We all give off different energy vibrations. Some positive and some negative…either way our energy is profoundly unique. Self-esteem emerges from the awareness of one’s own uniqueness.

Last month I spoke about the writing on our walls. This writing can come from parents, peers, friends, coaches, teachers, lovers just about any human being that we give our pen to as well as the authority to define our beliefs about ourselves and our life experiences. If I asked you to come up on stage and sing a little song for the crowd, you would first consult the writing on your wall…it may say: “Go for it you were told you were an awesome singer when you sang in the High School choir”…OR it may say…”FAT CHANCE, no way I’m getting up there and making a fool out of myself like I did when I sang at church and my mom said I couldn’t sing.” We are constantly consulting the writing on our walls as we interact with our world. We will be a lot more understanding and open-minded in relationships when we realize that most of our communication with one another comes from the writing on our walls.

When the writing on your walls says, “I’m not good enough”, everything in your life will be interpreted from this point of view. You will attract to yourself events and people that will back this “I’m not good enough” belief up until you erase it. So how do you erase it? Good question. Imagine a table and across the top is written a belief statement about yourself: I can’t sing. The legs of the table represent specific events in your life that back that belief up: My mom said that I can’t sing. In order to collapse that belief you must cut down the legs, then the table will fall. EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) does this effectively and most times instantly. By emotionally tuning into the specific event, while tapping on specific acupuncture points, the body collapses the “block” that was put in place when you accepted the statement, “I can’t sing” as truth.

Many times you only have to tune into one or two “legs” that support your tabletop belief and the whole table crashes down. After using EFT, clients often experience a profound sense of self-worth and peace. As you collapse the different tabletops in your life, a deep awareness of your uniqueness begins to emerge within. Belief in yourself begins to replace past negativity…once you start “tapping” into this, there is no going back…it’s all about loving and accepting yourself into emotional freedom.

EFT: The Freedom to BE

EFT and LOVE